18/01/2025
Redefined Success; Thinking beyond Grade 12 Results
My niece has just received her grade twelve results. She sat for a total of nine subjects. She was at Njase Girls Secondary School. In one subject (RE) she got a three. In the remaining eight, she got ones only (distinctions). In total she has eleven points in nine subjects.
The elated face of all family members is simply inspiring.
Yet a part of me feels pity for her. I am sorry to say grade twelve results mean nothing if not accompanied by other things. There are at least seven very important components that define successful living. Here they are;
1. WHAT DO I REALLY WANT?
I have found many graduates who actually regret what they studied. Imagine spending seven years studying something you regret. The implication of this is that it is possible to occupy ones time with emptiness.
2. WHAT ARE MY TRUE PROCLIVITIES?
A proclivity is an inclination. An appointment with your potential. It is a desire to outshine yourself. In more technical terms, it is a natural appreciation of what comes easy for you but hard for others.
3. HOW DEEP ARE YOUR SOCIAL TENTACLES?
Zambians are generally cultured (conservative) and in that same regard, it can be said that Zambians rely on social approvals for validation, motivation and in some cases for retardation. When you can decide on your own early in life how much or how little you want to depend on others, it will liberate you to pursue your dreams.
4. AVOIDING TEMPORARY SATISFACTION
I met a man yesterday who always tells me how great a motivational talk I tendered to them some eleven years ago. I am always flattered by his recollection of everything. Unfortunately he is guilty of not paying attention to his own photolithography. Lithography is a process of projecting light and printing it on to flat surfaces. Many young people are busy printing wrong images of themselves into the concious of society. If a youth can avoid this temptation, theirs is victory in life and in academia.
5. RELATIONSHIPS
Agree with me that life is more than these three words; "I love you." Recently a certain grade twelve student never wrote his final exams. He committed su***de because his girlfriend rejected him. What a loss. The way I love Nshima and Kalembula and then I leave that over an opinion?
6. SPECIALIST LEADERSHIP
So then what is true success? True success is finding one, two or three things you want to be absolutely great at and going for it. Jim Collins speaks of moving from Good to Great. Leadership is a lonely affair of chasing your true passion. True passion leads to true potential.
7. MONEY IS THE SAME
Last week I gave a lift to a man from Mongu to Lusaka. I needed company and this man gave me more than that. He made my ten hour drive look like a three hour ride. He had just returned from fensing a game farm for the richest man in Mongu. He quickly showed me pictures on his phone of many game farms and ranches they have worked on. His phone kept on ringing through out the journey. All I saw in this man was a billionaire. I was so proud of him.
CONCLUSION
Getting six points or nine points or even thirty points is simply a point in life but it is not the main point. The ultimate in life is finding your space, putting food on your table and finding true happiness.
INVITATION
I am inviting you to a seminar on the 25th of January 2024 from 14:00hrs to 16:30hrs. It is a nearly three hour Leadership, Motivational, and Career talk designed to rock your boat so you can swim to your best side of life. Life is a journey that requires information, mentorship and leadership. Do not waste four years studying the wrong thing. Come and be launched to your greatest potential. See you on Saturday 25th January 2025 in Mongu.
To register simply click on the link below.
https://chat.whatsapp.com/D306ypmuS7iILiCbaUMA9T
The venue is MUNAMEHO ACADEMY IN CHISONGA. Charges is FREE.
Please share this with at least ten others. Adults are also welcome. Limited space available.