11/13/2023
From a Linked-In Post (which I don't normally even go on, sorry LI), This is GOOD Stuff:
The magic incantation for workplace conflict
If you ever find yourself:
1. Raising your voice in a meeting
2. About to label the other person negatively ("you're always late", "your ideas are pie-in-the-sky", "you're biased")
3. Taking 20+ minutes to compose a 2-sentence Slack response, or 1+ hour to respond to an e-mail because you're so worked up
It’s time to use the the magic incantation:
"Let’s continue this tomorrow."
You can tack on a "I’ve got more to say but..." or "I don’t think we can resolve this today..." or even "I’m not feeling my best..." before the magic incantation, but use the incantation.
You can’t solve conflict when you’re seeing red.
You’ll probably make it worse if you keep at it.
Let the moment pass.
Go for a walk. Get a good night’s sleep.
It will be easier tomorrow.