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18/09/2025

Big news, Dumaguete foodies! 🎉 Your favorite Viet-Thai cravings are about to get even better!
We're thrilled to announce that Cái Bán Viet-Thai Streetfood is expanding to a BIGGER SPACE SOON at Northpoint, Dumaguete! Get ready for a more comfortable and spacious dining experience while still enjoying all your beloved authentic flavors.
Stay tuned for more updates – you won't want to miss this! ✨

Big news, Dumaguete foodies! 🎉 Your favorite Viet-Thai cravings are about to get even better!

We're thrilled to announce that Cái Bán Viet-Thai Streetfood is expanding to a BIGGER SPACE SOON at Northpoint, Dumaguete! Get ready for a more comfortable and spacious dining experience while still enjoying all your beloved authentic flavors.

Stay tuned for more updates – you won't want to miss this! ✨

01/05/2025

Ah, “happy pessimism.” It sounds like an oxymoron, doesn’t it? Like sunshine on a rainy day, or maybe more accurately, knowing it will rain but still enjoying the warmth of the sun while it lasts. As an introvert, my mind often runs through all the possible scenarios, and let’s be honest, they aren’t always rainbows and unicorns. Combine that with the daily tightrope walk of being a single mom juggling a full-time job and squeezing in those IT gigs online while making sure Xavy gets to school, has decent meals, and doesn’t turn the house into a complete disaster zone… well, let’s just say my default setting isn’t usually bubbly optimism....

Explore the concept of 'happy pessimism' in parenting, embracing challenges and celebrating small wins along the journey of resilience.

30/04/2025

You know Murphy’s Law, right? That delightful little nugget of wisdom stating that “anything that can go wrong will go wrong”? In my world, straddling the exhilarating tightrope of solo-parenting Xavy, and the wonderfully predictable unpredictability of the IT world, it feels less like a joke and a fundamental operating principle. You’re spot on. In IT, approaching projects with a healthy dose of “what if” isn’t about being a Debbie Downer; it’s about being prepared....

Discover how embracing Murphy's Law can empower solo parents, enhancing resilience and problem-solving skills amid life's unpredictability.

29/04/2025

The past few years, I’ve learned that the way we grapple with endings is as varied and complex as life itself. The question of how to come to terms with the fact that everything, even the good things, comes to an end… my own experience highlights the uneven terrain of acceptance. When Shepherd, our beloved 12-year-old Labrador Retriever, passed two years ago, there was a genuine sadness, but also a sense of peace....

Explore the complex emotions of grief and acceptance in pet loss and single parenthood, finding strength in memories and support.

28/04/2025

Being an introvert navigating the exhilarating (and exhausting) world of solo-parenting, while juggling a full-time job and my trusty IT side hustle, means my life is a carefully constructed series of logical steps… that occasionally trip over their own feet in the most spectacular fashion. Our two canine companions, a dignified Belgian Malinois and a perpetually nonchalant Shih Tzu, are steadfast witnesses to these moments....

Discover the humorous side of single parenting and introversion, and learn how to embrace failures as stepping stones to resilience.

28/04/2025

"Fangs of Fortune," also known as "Da Meng Gui Li" or "The Big Dream Returns," has captivated this viewer as one of the best dramas of the year, delivering everything I adore in fantasy, suspense, and adventurous dramas and then some! This series, rooted in Chinese mythology from the 'Classics of Mountains and Seas,' masterfully blends a demon-versus-mortals adventure with profound emotional depth....

Discover the captivating world of 'Fangs of Fortune', a thrilling blend of romance, adventure, and Chinese mythology that keeps you on the edge of your seat!

27/04/2025

Single Mom Survival: Week of Self-Sabotage Life as a single parent often feels like juggling flaming torches while riding a unicycle. As an introvert (and a classic INTJ!), my default mode is analysis and planning, trying to make sense of the beautiful chaos that is raising my 12-year-old son, Xavy, working two IT jobs, and managing my furry companions – one very clever Belgian Malinois and one equally adorable Shih Tzu....

Navigate the fears of failure and success as a single parent. Discover tips to overcome self-sabotage and embrace your journey.

26/04/2025

Single Mom Survival: Week of Self-Sabotage Life here in sunny Dumaguete has its own rhythm, a mix of the daily grind, the joys (and occasional dramas) of raising my 12-year-old, Xavy, and the delightful chaos brought by my two very opinionated dogs – a sharp Belgian Malinois and a sweet little Shih Tzu. As an INTJ-A introvert also juggling a full-time job and an online IT gig, downtime can feel like a precious, almost mythical creature....

Discover strategies to combat self-sabotage and embrace peace as a busy single mom, balancing work, life, and the joys of parenthood.

26/04/2025

Ha Yun Seo, a confident and respected team leader, works at a large company alongside her younger boyfriend, Seo Ju Won. Unknown to her, Ju Won is the son of the chaebol family running the company. When his mother offers Yun Seo money to end their relationship, Yun Seo, shaped by a harsh past, accepts, believing love is unrealistic. However, Ju Won, driven by his faith in love, refuses to give up and strives to win her back. Original Network: Channel A, COUPANG TV Cast & Credits: Shin Hyun Been, Moon Sang Min, Yoon Park, Park So Jin Episodes: 10

Discover the gripping love story of Ha Yun Seo and Seo Ju Won as they navigate challenges and family pressures in 'Cinderella at 2 AM'.

25/04/2025

I can pinpoint several moments when that nasty little seed of self-doubt first took root. That job interview I was so sure I aced, only to receive the polite rejection email. The elaborate cake I attempted for Xavy’s birthday that ended up looking like a leaning tower of frosting. That expensive certification I studied tirelessly for, only to see the dreaded "Fail" on the screen.

https://xavyandmom.com/day-5-the-dawn-of-doubt-and-the-long-road-to-believing-again/