13/06/2026
Did I mention I own a set of 17-year-old twin boys? Here’s an insight…
One is obsessed with sport and calisthenics. The other is on the spectrum and has a memory like a sieve! Both of them are slowly learning all the life skills that come with growing up.
As you can imagine, personal hygiene is occasionally a topic of conversation.
Rather than saying:
“You need a shower.”
I’ll sometimes just lead with :
“You smell like roses on a summer’s day.”
They know exactly what I mean. It’s sarcasm. It’s gentle. And it’s usually met with an eye roll and a laugh! They know me well!
It got me thinking about how often we focus on what’s wrong rather than how we communicate it.
The message still lands. The shower still happens. But nobody feels criticised or embarrassed.
The older I get, the more I realise that reframing isn’t about avoiding reality.
It’s about finding a way to address it so that it keeps people’s dignity intact.
Whether we’re talking to our children, colleagues, clients or friends, a little kindness can make a difficult message much easier to hear.
Now, if you’ll excuse me, I’m in the middle of cleaning the house and I must get back to it. I smell divine today. 🌹😂