30/08/2026
I’m honestly so sick and tired of brothers coming to me saying, “How did you come to Islam through a man I bet?” ,,, followed by all these little comments and assumptions about Muslim sisters who are reverts.
And honestly, it couldn’t be further from the truth.
In my 16 years as a Muslim, from my own personal experience, I have only ever known one sister who left the deen.
Now, I’m not saying that represents every revert’s experience. But what I am saying is: stop making assumptions and stop judging people based on stereotypes.
And we also need to acknowledge something uncomfortable: sometimes sisters don’t leave Islam because they stopped believing in Islam. Sometimes, they are pushed away by the behaviour of Muslims themselves.
The way someone is spoken to.
The way they are judged.
The way their past is constantly brought up.
The way some brothers make assumptions about why a woman became Muslim.
You have no idea what is in someone’s heart. You are not Allah, and you are not the judge of someone’s intentions.
And before anyone thinks I’m only talking about born Muslims — this applies to reverts too.
Reverts, we cannot come into Islam and paint every born Muslim with the same brush because of one bad experience, one bad marriage, one bad brother, or one bad community.
There are good Muslims and there are bad Muslims. There are people with beautiful intentions and people with terrible intentions — regardless of whether they were born Muslim or embraced Islam later in life.
So let’s learn to hold our tongues, stop making assumptions, and stop judging one another.
Because at the end of the day, Allah knows what is in our hearts, not other humans.
May Allah keep all of us firm upon the deen, protect us from becoming a reason someone is pushed away from Islam, and purify our intentions. Ameen. 🤲🏽
