05/31/2026
"us and them"
magazine cutouts, 2026
a piece about how i don't always feel like a real person. there's always been some weird feeling in the back of my head that im not like other people. in the sense that i feel like everyone else got a blueprint on how exist and i didn't. people just know things like social cues, how to make friends, how to make small talk, how to recognize small flags in other people, how to use tone in conversation, what facial expressions to make, etc. I've never gotten that. not really. i just try to mimic what I would see in cartoons or movies only to be confused when other people don't match the energy I give. i didn't get it as a kid and I still don't. but I think I try less to fit into whatever predetermined rules society has for people and try harder to be myself now. it's a lot easier to exist that way. since cutting my abuser out of my life it's been quite a journey rediscovering things I have always loved and lost for so long because one person (and sometimes many) made me feel so horrible for enjoying them. often belittling my interests to force their own upon me, only to get upset when I started showing real interest in it and learning more about it than they did. or weaponizing the difficulty I have in understanding unwritten neurotypical "rules." maybe they didn't want me to have anything of my own? maybe they just wanted to "other" me so I would continue to feel like no one would ever accept me. i really don't know. it's still hard for me to even consider that people actually enjoy my presence but when they remind me they do it means a lot. and it proves that maybe there isn't anything wrong with me. it just takes time.